Is he really over her like he said he is?

My boyfriend and I are very close. 8 months ago he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years that he almost got engaged to (she left him). Lately, I have found myspace comments to her from him saying...."I miss you, we should hang out again"..."You look so much better when you smile"...."The next tattoo you go get, I will come with you"...and she moved up 2 rows on his myspace top friends. I confronted him about it since he has only left me one comment ever. He said he is over her and loves me and wants to be with me only forever. But he said he promised to be there for her. She still has myspace photos of when they were together up...is he really over her? If so, wouldn't he try to be contacting her because he knows how upset it makes me. He said he hates people being mad at him and they are just friends. He's less talkative and he's not the same person I met a few months ago. We no longer laugh or talk or are random together. We always fight...any advice? Thank you all!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Defiantly not a good sign.... Especially with her leaving him, and no there all "buddy buddy".. It is uncomfortable when your bf or gf are friends with there exs but for it to be such a bad break up then "waa laa" friends. noo.. Any girlfriend in your position would be saying the same the thing you are. I would tell him upfront... I am your girlfriend. you have made a choice to be with me. She left you, and now you want to be there for her? I don't think soo... Also not to be rude, but if your boyfriend was close with you he would see that this is obviously bothering you. How would he feel if you where "beinging there" for an ex you where engaged to? I think you should really rethink your relationship with this guy, before, you get hurt. Here is an excellent website, please read...

Is he really over her like he said he is?

hmm yeah, it's over.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

prolly not.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

He's not over her and your his side kick. Get rid of him and find somone that can truly love you for the person that you are. If he was over her, friends or not, he wouldn't be writing those things on MySpace.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

He is NOT over her. He does not want her to move on with her life with other guys, so he keeps in touch with her. Give him an ultimatum -- you or her. If he keeps contacting her, dump him!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

He is playing you!! He's hoping that she would come back to him and he doesn't want to alone so he's with you..like a rebound girl.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Sorry to tell you this, but I think he's not really over her..

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Bull sh*t. He is not over her!! You need to be smart ebough to recognize that. You should break it off with him and tell him you can't be with him untill he is really over her.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

I am in the same exact situation and all I can tell you is if you stress out it and are always mad at each other all it is going to do is drive you guys apart...trust me I'm going through it right now and it's hard as hell cause you wanna trust him so bad but there's a part of you that thinks he still wants her.... just try as hard as you can to trust him.....everything happens for a reason and if he gets back with her than it wasn't meant to be.....hope things get better

Is he really over her like he said he is?

I'm sorry. It's pretty clear. He still has feelings for her. I know it's painful, but you need to let him go until he sorts this out.

Next time steer clear of rebounds and get to know guys who are completely available in every way.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

he is playing you girl. why is he even talking to her when he is with you...its wrong and you should not stand for it. Sorry but leaving someoner comments like that means he still loves/likes her. He should not be able to have you and her. Find someone who's eyes are jsut for you.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

It's MySpace hun. It's not worth the drama and just keeping on caring for him. He may fall in love with you or may want back with her. However, you will never know unless you take the jump!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

It's only been 8 months. Get out while you can. Something doesn't smell right.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

you need to trust him and be happier. unless u catch him cheating dont jump to conclusions. he is urs, he loves u. u need to let it go.

oh and by-the-way we have the same first name.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

one thing, Myspace causes problems with relationships for a fact. But there is no reason he should be talking to his ex, its his ex for a reason. move on i am telling you. maybe if you back off he will know what he has and maybe it will let him know that it really bothers you.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Well, he might be over her, but he's nowhere nearly in love with you as he was with her. If he was he wouldn't be thinking about her or sending her so many myspace comments and stuff.

If he's acting differently and you're arguing and stuff, I think he might be unconsciously pushing you away.

I don't want to say break up with him based on what you're saying, because I know I can't see the entire picture. But it sounds like he doesn't have plans of being with you forever, and is just telling you that. You should talk to him about your future together.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Melissa you need to do a reality check

take some snap shots with you and him and put them on his page

if you want to be with him express your concerns

if he says he loves you then believe him and focus

on him and you

you dwell on this slut you will ruin your relationship

Is he really over her like he said he is?

It's as simple as where his heart is strongest.

Regardless, she clearly has her claws in him and she's trying to get him back. After having been rejected by her, I'm sure he's eating it up to some degree because she's catering to his ego.

It doesn't matter what he says. This flirtation could easily go to the next level. He's not guilty till he's guilty, but keep your head level and know what you're looking for.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

he still has feelings for her but he knows she wont take him back so he tells u there is nothing so no one's heart (including his) gets broken

Is he really over her like he said he is?

If she left him why does he need to be there for her? It doesn't sound like they are ove the relationship, he's in a new relationship and he's putting yours after their old one. It looks like it would be better if you found someone who is completely over their relationship.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

He is clearly not over her. You need to seperate yourself from this situation before you get hurt. He is not thinking clearly, He has not admitted it to himself. The longer you wait the more it's going to hurt.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

I think you just don't trust him. He might be telling the truth that He is over her, but I don't think that its wrong that he still talks to her and wants to hang out with her as friends. I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. I think she's not over him. If he really does love you, he wouldn't hurt you like that. I still talk to my ex, and I haven't seen him in 3 or 4 years. We are only friends and I don't think it would ever be any more than that because I have issues with one thing that he does. He said that he would not give up drinking but would give up smoking weed. I am a recovering addict and that is a BIG issue for me. Just give him the benefit of the doubt.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Okay, in my opinion, he's probably not totally over her. But, that isn't a terrible thing per se. I mean he was with her for a long time and I think guys usually have a problem cutting things totally off with someone they really loved. But he does need to know that if he's going to be with you exclusively than he needs to not be saying/acting like he still has something going on with her-) Guys are always worried about being mean or someone thinking they are an a**hole... ya know? So you have to look at other parts of your relationship.. it sounds like this isn't the ONLY thing thats bothering you and maybe you two have drifted apart a little bit. I also say ALWAYS trust your gut instinct-if you think there's more going on or it's possible that he's not being totally honest with you than you're probably right. Maybe tell him that you aren't feeling completely secure in the relationship and see what he does to fix this.. GOOD LUCK! I know how you feel, we've all been there!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

My dear friend, this is no fooling around, your boyfriend can't do anything he likes, he has to understand that even if he is doing those things with a good intention he is still hurting you. Its very good that you are trying to understand him and now its your duty to make him understand that he is wrong. In a relationship we have to make some adjustments and we do it with our will. But don't think too much, I don't think anything has changed in your relation, only your boyfriend is too much moody and might be this has made you think like that. believe me everything is fine. Just don't keep on bugging him with that question, instead comeout with some other way to make him understand. Its all upto you, we can only suggest you. Best of luck and may your relation be forever.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Well let him contact her...he still misses her still they spent 3 years together and it's kind of hard for him to replace her

you have to show him that u understad him...and when he'll realise that going back to her is not going to happen things will go back on track

just dont talk with him about her anymore..cause the only thing youll do is to remind him of her!

if you see that he is still acting weird just let him go..he needs some time to clear up his mind! don't annoy him or stress with the subject cause you'll end up the relationship fighting..and that will make you suffer more...if you decide to break up with him( probably it will be for the best for both of you even for a short perriod of time) remind him that he can count on you whenever , wherever...show him that u understand his feelings!

Good luck!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Ask him what he would do if he had to choose between never seeing you again or never seeing her again. Dont listen to his answer. Watch his eyes and his body language. This will tell you everything. If he acts offended, this is a cover up.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

Well, he sounds pretty honest, really.

I think that there isn't much to worry about, personally.

If he starts haniging out with her and see maybe more suggestive comments, then I would deffanately worry. For now, though... I think he is devoted and commited to you and your relationship. He knows he shouldn't dwell in the past - so if he does, he knows he has to change things.

As for now, I think you should just be happy with him while things are good and as far as the comments about not being random and funny... same for me and my bf. when we first talked before we dated we where so funny and random and it was great, but things get more comfortable and you get use to eachother and don't need that goofy humor and everything that you use to. It's like when you hear the same joke over and over and eventually you don't even think it's funny anymore. There nothing bad about it, it just means you and your bf are far more comfortable with eachother now and don't need those jokes to keep you getting to know eachother and to make you happy.

When you fight, just think about how much you hate it when you fight. Think about how it doesn't get you anywhere, and just keep trying and thinking that way every time, and eventually you woull get along better cos your fights will soon dwindle down to 0. Me and my bf fought all the time for a while there and finally I just relized how much I hate it and how it interferes with my life, school.. being upset all the time. thinking he was going to go... and I said that I wasn't going to fight about stupid stuff anymore. Now we get along so much better than we ever did, I think.

I hope this advice helps you, and good luck!

Is he really over her like he said he is?

I don't think you can complete get over someone if you were dating them for 3 years. I think you guys needs some space because it is obvious that he is not over her. Find someone that is into you and only you. Don't become second fiddle.

Is he really over her like he said he is?

He still likes her, 3 years is a long time. They both still like one another. Your relationship with him is cooling off. Eight months, is all you need to say I want to move on. Don't wait for him to come and tell you it's over. They are testing the waters again, to see if they should go a second round. So, he doesn't want to dump you until he's sure. Which means he is going to start creeping with her if he hasn't already! Watch your back and get rid of him. The tell tale sign is, the intimate pictures of him on her web page! It's a blatant attempt to reconcile and piss you off. He should respect you enough. To ask her to remove the pictures from her web site. Out of respect that the relationship is over. It's not a good look ! Move on. You will get someone better. Make sure he's not on the rebound, like this loser !

Is he really over her like he said he is?

I have been there... I know how you feel. It sounds like he still loves her but also cares for you. I was with this guy for 7 years of my life before I finally woke up. It was hard to leave him but when I did I found the true love of my life and now I have an amazing husband %26amp; 3 wonderful children. I think You need to find someone that will respect you. He can't have his cake and eat it too... Best Wishes %26amp; Good Luck!